Houston personals are like personals from across the globe. They stink.
Why? Well, for starters, in the Houston personals that I have recently had the opportunity to read cheesiness and false pretensions abound. Wordy eagerness annoys would-be friendly readers, and the far more alluring combination of mystery + humble honesty suffers for a lack of much needed "page time."
Where has the lure of the oh-so-attractive written word gone? It seems to be lacking when Houston online daters need it most.
The following Houston personals tips will help you write a better online personal ad whether you live in Houston or not.
Houston Personals Tip #1: Maintain Mystery and Develop Curiosity
Sometimes Houston personals writers forget who they are. They approach the keyboard and pretend they are Don Juan or Marilyn Monroe. They say what they think the opposite sex wants to hear and forget what they already have to offer. They also forget to present their best information in a realistic--yet mysterious--manner. Take the following "could-be" Houston personals ad for instance:
Houston Personals Ad #1
"I guess the most important thing I can say about myself is that I treat others no matter how they treat me the way I would want to be treated. I treat the woman I am with, like I treat my mother and..." 1
Despite the need for a bit of grammar review, this writer could also use a lesson in engaging a woman's interest. Instead of writing what he thinks that a woman wants to hear (i.e. I treat the woman I am with like I treat my mother), he needs to write something about himself that indirectly points to the attributes that attract women (i.e. job status, power to influence, leadership ability, physical appearance, sense of gallantry, level of stability). A Houston personals writer should never directly state that he is good looking, has a great job or is a powerful leader because the direct statements will either bore women or promote distaste since it's obvious that no one wants to date someone who thinks too highly of his or herself. So for instance, let's pretend that the man who wrote the original Houston personal ad #1 is Joe Starks. If Joe wants to really engage a woman's interest in a Houston personals ad he could write the following instead:
Houston Personals Ad #1 (Revised)
Hi I'm Joe. I enjoy my work AND my time off , and would like to spoil an attractive woman with my brown eyes and what I hope would be considered gallant attentions. I like to be a leader in my field of work but I also enjoy learning from others.
In this would-be Houston personals ad, not only is Joe inferring that he is good at his job but he is also inferring that he is a stable personality without actually boring a woman by saying something like, "I have a stable job and am ready to settle down." This potential Houston personals ad also presents hints regarding Joe's physical appearance without actually saying whether he considers himself to be attractive or not. "Brown eyes" and the fact that Joe is looking for someone attractive infer that Joe is attractive himself, which is far superior to writing something like, "I consider myself to be attractive," or "I have an average appearance," both of which are not likely to attract women of confidence or discernment. This would-be Houston personals ad also indirectly refers to the fact that Joe treats women with respect without boring readers by telling them that he treats women like his mother! (What woman would honestly want to be treated like a man's mother?!) Then, in the last line, the new and improved potential Houston personals ad infers that Joe enjoys leadership but is also happy to learn from others, which is very attractive to a woman because she wants to know that a man will listen to her but not be a weak pushover.
Houston Personals Tip #2: Positive Vibes
Positive vibes will attract more and better relationships---even online. No matter how many sour breakups you've been through and no matter how you feel your next companion should be, remember that a negative attitude and demands are not attractive dating elements. Take the following personal ad for instance:
Houston Personals Ad #2
"I am a BBW that is looking for friends. I would like to met someone who is interested in getting to know someone first before deciding that they are not worthy for them. First impressions are great bu..." 2
This woman probably has great intentions but the part that says, "I would like to meet someone who is interested in getting to know someone first before deciding that they are not worthy for them," sounds like a past dating experience that probably wasn't a pleasant one and isn't likely to attract the best of potential prospects. Instead, she should remain positive and perhaps humorous if she feels so inclined. So, if she (let's say her name is Susan) wants to find someone who she can trust and confide in before he decides to run away, she could write a Houston personals ad that consisted of the following:
Houston Personals Ad #2 (Revised)
I am a BBW that is looking for dynamic and exciting connections. Moving forward on my own and with an active partner are my goals. I love confident and empathetic people who try not to make demands of others. Looking forward to meeting fantastic individuals!
Now, if Susan had written this revised version of her Houston personals ad she more than likely would have been perceived as a very positive and energetic individual instead of a bit of a weakling. For instance the first sentence in the revised Houston personal ad infers that Susan is looking for relationships but does not directly state that she is looking for romance which at this point might be an alarming prospect for her. The second sentence affirms that Susan is looking to move ahead with someone but that whether she finds someone or not she will move forward regardless with her own agenda. This is attractive since men do not want a whining, helpless female who is always in need of emotional support. The third sentence in the would-be Houston personals ad infers that Susan is confident and empathetic and that she doesn't like to make demands of others since those are the qualities that she is actively seeking herself. The last sentence reinforces a very positive potential Houston personals ad that is far more likely to attract high-quality men than her first Houston personal ad is likely to do.
Marci Crane is a copywriter for http://www.main10.com Main10 in Orem, Utah. For more information about video introductions (so you can avoid http://houston.heavenlymatched.com Houston personals or other personals altogether), please feel free to (http://heavenlymatched.com) learn more about Heavenly Matched.
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